CHANGE is neither a three nor a four letter word

Change is an amazingly powerful and often times emotionally-charged word. Change can be a word that seems like such a great idea when directed toward someone else; i.e. how “they” can change in a way that will make your life better. At the other end of the spectrum, the word “change” can trigger fear and resistance in a split-second if someone says you need to do it. Or, it can be embraced and welcomed by choosing to move forward with an attitude of gratitude and appreciation for the opportunities change can bring to the quality of your life.

My whole life, I have been presented to a single element called change. Change occurs in many different forms and is carried out in many different ways. However, just recently, I have come to the realization that change can be the deepest of all subjects. I always assumed that change occurred when you moved to a new town or when you lost someone close to you. Those are elements to change, yes, but change doesn’t have to occur over a single dramatic event. It can just happen overnight when your brain determines it’s time to do something different.

For obvious reasons, people reject change. Especially people who are close to each other because they feel that this change is going to separate them and make them not as close as they used to be. They fight change until they force the person to change. It’s sad how this works, but in reality, it’s probably the single most reason why people change. The people we love, love us so much that they want us to remain the way we are forever. Forever is a long time and not one person can always stay the same. Sometimes if the people we love would just accept the change and go with it, they would understand where the change was originally coming from.

It’s dangerous to try to stop change and argue against it, especially if the person wants to change so much. The reason that somebody wants to change is usually not their choice, but a feeling that the person feels inside their head and heart. It’s almost like a celestial force is making you change and you have no say in the matter but you know you have to because your mental and physical attributes are commanding you to. Maybe the change isn’t the best change, but if you dig deeper, the person that you love and know isn’t really changing, they are just trying to find themselves and the one thing they need the most is the support of the people who they care about the most. When the people they care about the most dismiss their change as something unimportant and try to guard down everything by rules and regulations, the person they loved begins to change out of sadness that the one group of people he or she thought would understand, really has no clue. Maybe change isn’t always good or bad, as I was implying here earlier, but it could be looked at as something to help you grow. So just remember, if someone is changing, be there for them, offer your opinion but help them go through whatever they need to go through because they will do what they need to do regardless of the people that they really do love.

The Man and his thoughts

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There will be a time when a man needs to hide himself under the veil of smoke. Where there everything fades away: his worries, his problems, his thoughts. They all fade into the smoke, and he will be at peace. 

via Daily Prompt: Smoke

An invitation: For those who take life too seriously as I do.

Read these…

1. A day without sunshine is like, night.

2. On the other hand, you have different fingers.

3. I just got lost in thought. It was unfamiliar territory.

4. 42.7% of all statistics are made up on the spot.

5. 99 percent of lawyers give the rest a bad name.

6. I feel like I’m diagonally parked in a parallel universe.

7. Love may be blind, but marriage is a real eye-opener.

8. You have the right to remain silent. Anything you say will be misquoted, then used against you.

9. Honk if you love peace and quiet.

10. Remember: half the people you know are below average.

11. Nothing is foolproof to a talented fool.

12. He who laughs last thinks slowest.

13. Depression is merely anger without enthusiasm.

14. Eagles may soar, but dogs don’t get sucked into jet engines.

15. The early bird may get the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese.

16. I intend to live forever — so far so good.

17. Borrow money from a pessimist — they don’t expect it back.

18. If Barbie is so popular, why do you have to buy all her friends?

19. The only substitute for good manners is fast reflexes.

20. When everything’s coming your way, you’re in the wrong lane and going the wrong way.

21. If at first you don’t succeed, destroy all evidence that you tried.

22. A conclusion is the place where you got tired of thinking.

23. Experience is something you don’t get until after you need it.

24. For every action there is an equal and opposite criticism.

25. Bills travel through the mail at twice the speed of checks.

26. Never do card tricks for the group you play poker with.

27. No one is listening until you make a mistake.

28. Anything you buy will go on sale the next day.

29. Success always occurs in private and failure in full view.

30. The severity of an itch is inversely proportional to your ability to reach it.

31. To steal ideas from one person is plagiarism; to steal from many is research.

32. You never really learn to swear until you learn to drive.

33. Two wrongs are only the beginning.

34. The sooner you fall behind the more time you’ll have to catch up.

35. A clear conscience is usually the sign of a bad memory.

36. Change is inevitable, except from vending machines.

37. Get a new car for you spouse — it’ll be a great trade!

38. Always try to be modest, and be proud of it!

39. If you think nobody cares, try missing a couple of payments.

40. If at first you don’t succeed, then skydiving isn’t for you.