CHANGE is neither a three nor a four letter word

Change is an amazingly powerful and often times emotionally-charged word. Change can be a word that seems like such a great idea when directed toward someone else; i.e. how “they” can change in a way that will make your life better. At the other end of the spectrum, the word “change” can trigger fear and resistance in a split-second if someone says you need to do it. Or, it can be embraced and welcomed by choosing to move forward with an attitude of gratitude and appreciation for the opportunities change can bring to the quality of your life.

My whole life, I have been presented to a single element called change. Change occurs in many different forms and is carried out in many different ways. However, just recently, I have come to the realization that change can be the deepest of all subjects. I always assumed that change occurred when you moved to a new town or when you lost someone close to you. Those are elements to change, yes, but change doesn’t have to occur over a single dramatic event. It can just happen overnight when your brain determines it’s time to do something different.

For obvious reasons, people reject change. Especially people who are close to each other because they feel that this change is going to separate them and make them not as close as they used to be. They fight change until they force the person to change. It’s sad how this works, but in reality, it’s probably the single most reason why people change. The people we love, love us so much that they want us to remain the way we are forever. Forever is a long time and not one person can always stay the same. Sometimes if the people we love would just accept the change and go with it, they would understand where the change was originally coming from.

It’s dangerous to try to stop change and argue against it, especially if the person wants to change so much. The reason that somebody wants to change is usually not their choice, but a feeling that the person feels inside their head and heart. It’s almost like a celestial force is making you change and you have no say in the matter but you know you have to because your mental and physical attributes are commanding you to. Maybe the change isn’t the best change, but if you dig deeper, the person that you love and know isn’t really changing, they are just trying to find themselves and the one thing they need the most is the support of the people who they care about the most. When the people they care about the most dismiss their change as something unimportant and try to guard down everything by rules and regulations, the person they loved begins to change out of sadness that the one group of people he or she thought would understand, really has no clue. Maybe change isn’t always good or bad, as I was implying here earlier, but it could be looked at as something to help you grow. So just remember, if someone is changing, be there for them, offer your opinion but help them go through whatever they need to go through because they will do what they need to do regardless of the people that they really do love.


Post Valentine Words of Thanks to fellow Bloggers.

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For this post, I will have to defer from the subjects I usually write about and what this blog intends to achieve, in general, which is to somehow inspire, provoke and motivate my readers, in order to THANK some of my awesome blogging friends for their kindness of hearts and support on my initiative to surprise my lovely wife for the Valentine’s Day.

Truly, the blogging community is a loving and inspiring community. Although we could say that friendships built here are considered “virtual”, it is not far too different from having friends who are physically-present — support, love and encouragement-wise. The blogging world is not only about reading someone else’s post and responding to it, or the other way around, writing a post and someone responds to it. I believe it’s far deeper than that, here every conversation made through comments gradually solidify the somewhat “state of friendship” that was established through such exchanges. Undeniably, there were bloggers who are dedicated and genuinely appreciative not just of their own blogs but those of their fellow bloggers as well. That’s what makes blogging thrive and stay afloat despite the crazily overwhelming scenarios the world and all of humanity have to deal with every single second of every single day. It wasn’t overpowered and ultimately devoured by such chaos and disorder because blogging has a “heart” (the goodness in each of the bloggers who desires to share to the world their own stories in order to inspire and promote humanity), “mind” (the desire to stimulate consciousness, whether it be personal, spiritual, psychological, societal or environmental) and “soul” (the initiative to provoke and instill not just awareness but the desire for action). To my fellow bloggers out there, remain true to the purpose of your blogs, you are making a big difference in this world by transcending boundaries in order to deliver your own unique stories and personal views and opinions that matter; of course, I know you are aware of that too.

Having said that, I would like to express my Special THANKS and GRATITUDE to the following bloggers for their kindness and support to my recent endeavor to give my wife a “one of a kind Valentine experience.” THANK YOU for responding even on such a short  and seemingly random notice 😉 :

Oristel Guenael. Thank you for the generosity of writing not just a simple message on the comment section of my post (which by the way was my only request) but you made an entirely separate post for my wife on your blog. That act of kindness for someone whom you haven’t met personally has totally blown me away! It made me inexpressively happy, and happier all the more, the moment I saw my wife’s reaction when she read that particular post. She was so amazed, and all she could say was, “The one who wrote this seem to have known me for a very long time. I can relate to every word that he has written!” And she asked later on: “How long have you known this person?” Which I replied, “A couple of weeks. When I ask him to give a simple Valentine message for us he immediately said “yes” and asked for your name, that’s all”. Then she said: “Wow! Seem like he’d known me for years. He’s amazing!”

I do understand that every word of encouragement written or spoken genuinely from the heart, in it, adopts a universal language that speaks directly to the person whom it was spoken to. And, to me, that’s the language of kindness. – Andrei

Karen Viramontes. Thank you for the lovely and sweet lines you’ve written seconds upon my request! To quote:

I never knew my soul could be so attracted to yours.

To know that you’re mine and I’m all yours.

The moments we share are priceless indeed,

nothing could ever replace the love that we have.

My soul belongs with yours and yours with mine.

 Happy hearts day to the both of you.

Thank you! That made our day extra special!

Special and heartfelt THANKS as well to the following that left sweet comments on the post: Brittany (ordinarilyextraordinarymom), Ali Grimshaw (flashlightbatteries), Mr. Buffy Devane, Letters that Matter, Radhika (radhiksreflection), and Nina (thehapplylife101).

For those who “Liked” the post: Carolyn Dennis-Williams, piratepatty, MissKymmiee, Love Mendoza, thecatalystsforchange, Patricia, Gbolabo Adetunji, Safia Osman, Ragazza Triste, Makayla Nielson, myyalia, thegirlonthego08.

[And for those other good friends I have here at WP who might have liked the post and/or left their comments given they got the chance to read it in time for the occasion 😉 ]

As I’ve said, the blogging community is a loving and inspiring community. For this purpose, THANK YOU, The Wife was super-duper-ultra HAPPY! Mission accomplished!

I salute you all! 🙂

– Andrei