CHANGE is neither a three nor a four letter word

Change is an amazingly powerful and often times emotionally-charged word. Change can be a word that seems like such a great idea when directed toward someone else; i.e. how “they” can change in a way that will make your life better. At the other end of the spectrum, the word “change” can trigger fear and resistance in a split-second if someone says you need to do it. Or, it can be embraced and welcomed by choosing to move forward with an attitude of gratitude and appreciation for the opportunities change can bring to the quality of your life.

My whole life, I have been presented to a single element called change. Change occurs in many different forms and is carried out in many different ways. However, just recently, I have come to the realization that change can be the deepest of all subjects. I always assumed that change occurred when you moved to a new town or when you lost someone close to you. Those are elements to change, yes, but change doesn’t have to occur over a single dramatic event. It can just happen overnight when your brain determines it’s time to do something different.

For obvious reasons, people reject change. Especially people who are close to each other because they feel that this change is going to separate them and make them not as close as they used to be. They fight change until they force the person to change. It’s sad how this works, but in reality, it’s probably the single most reason why people change. The people we love, love us so much that they want us to remain the way we are forever. Forever is a long time and not one person can always stay the same. Sometimes if the people we love would just accept the change and go with it, they would understand where the change was originally coming from.

It’s dangerous to try to stop change and argue against it, especially if the person wants to change so much. The reason that somebody wants to change is usually not their choice, but a feeling that the person feels inside their head and heart. It’s almost like a celestial force is making you change and you have no say in the matter but you know you have to because your mental and physical attributes are commanding you to. Maybe the change isn’t the best change, but if you dig deeper, the person that you love and know isn’t really changing, they are just trying to find themselves and the one thing they need the most is the support of the people who they care about the most. When the people they care about the most dismiss their change as something unimportant and try to guard down everything by rules and regulations, the person they loved begins to change out of sadness that the one group of people he or she thought would understand, really has no clue. Maybe change isn’t always good or bad, as I was implying here earlier, but it could be looked at as something to help you grow. So just remember, if someone is changing, be there for them, offer your opinion but help them go through whatever they need to go through because they will do what they need to do regardless of the people that they really do love.

19 thoughts on “CHANGE is neither a three nor a four letter word

    1. ” I felt someone wrote exactly what had been in my heart for too long” These are the most heartwarming and encouraging words a writer can hear (or read) coming from a fellow writer!
      Thank you Taj for letting me know that the post resonates with you. I’m glad 🙂

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  1. Change is uncertainty. To be able to adapt to change is essential for life and help and support change is essential to sustain and respect your relationship with the individual in question. Love is not all about just loving that person but loving and respecting their choices too. If your values are firmly in place and your trust in each other is intact, there is no reason to adapt and help adapt.
    An important message in this fast-paced world where relationships are as fragile as porcelain.
    Well expressed, Andrei!

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    1. Very well-said, this:’Love is not all about just loving that person but loving and respecting their choices too. If your values are firmly in place and you trust in each other is intact, there is no reason to adapt and help adapt’
      Everything changes, and I believe most of the changes we force ourselves into were done in good faith, and if they truly are done in good faith, then such changes must be accepted with gladness -may it be from ourselves or from others.
      When we see relationships as founded on love and trust, then change is always a positive thing.
      I love your wisdom Pranitha. Thank you.

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  2. GM Andrei. I always believe change and adaptability are very essential for the growth and peace. Things are moving at a very fast pace. We need to make certain changes in our perspectives and surroundings to be able to keep up with it. As long as the we don’t compromise with our core values, change should always be embraced. Else one are left behind or in relationships, it just snaps.

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    1. Very well-put Radhika: as we embrace change and welcome it into our lives let us make sure that our core values are never compromised.
      Always a pleasure hearing your thoughts and views 🙂 Thank you.

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  3. Ana B. Sajol

    Change….this is something i am looking forward as well, when people i love choose to embrace change, id be more happy to embrace the change in them, it would be selfish to wish that someone will stay same for us to hold on…to change is to grow and to grow is what life all about.
    Kudos to this well said piece.


  4. Change is something we all fear, sometimes it’s when people change around you and other times it’s we who have to make changes to adjust or move on. I guess we are comfortable with consistency and change alters that.

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    1. That’s true. The big challenge really is that we now live in an era of what we can call the age of convenience. We build our respective lives around our comfort zones and change (in any form) becomes a threat to that rather than a welcoming opportunity.

      Thank you for reading my post. Appreciate it.

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  5. I like how you talked about change here. It kinda made me sad ’cause I relate so much with it. Some people change, and others get left behind… You are right that we should support our loved ones through the changes… This post goes to show how good your writing is. 🙂

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    1. Yeah, I’ve experienced various phases and levels of changes my entire life. And the ones that are really hard to accept are those that involved our loved ones. Like I’ve said, most of the times we (people) doesn’t want change yet we are forced to change ’cause we need to and that’s how nature works. As they say, nothing is constant but change. So long as we are alive we continuously change. I am both a victim and a culprit of that rule of nature.

      On one note, thank you for the compliment on my writing. It means so much to me coming from you 🙂

      Thank you for the generous encouragement. I’m not yet done going thru your whole blog but so far I’ve enjoyed reading many of your posts and I admire your sketches too. You’re one gifted person. Grow on your God-given talents. Inspire many people thru them as you did to me.

      Best of luck. Cheers

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