Saying “I Don’t Care” can be liberating!

We’re all guilty.

Every day from the moment we wake up, we live our lives caring what other people think of us.

We accept the status quo for what it is because everyone around us does.

We tip toe our way through life by doing things in order to please others, not because it’s what we believe in. Eventually our actions, appearances, and lives become molded by how we think other people perceive us.

How are these pants going to make me look? What will my colleagues think if I spoke out? Are those people talking s*#t behind my back? If I take this job, what will my friends and family think of me?

Just writing that paragraph alone gave me a headache…

It’s exhausting. It’s dreadful. It has to stop.

Living a life that follows the ideal notions of what other people think is a terrible way to live. It makes you become the spineless spectator who waits for other people to take action first. It makes you become a follower.

Worst of all, it makes you become someone who doesn’t take a stand for anything.

We ca make Today the last day we live a life dictated by others. Today, we’re going to get to the bottom of the truth. Today is the day we can start saying: I don’t care (anymore).”

Believe it or not, we’re not that special.

We go through our days thinking about how other people might be judging us. But the truth is — those people are thinking the exact same thing.

No one in today’s “smartphone crazed” society has time in their schedule to think more than a brief second about us. The fact of the matter is, when we do have time to get our thoughts straight, we’re too busy thinking about ourselves and our own shortcomings — not others.

A study claims that people have on average 50,000-plus thoughts a day. This means that even if someone thought about us ten times in one day, it’s only 0.02 percent of their overall daily thoughts. Come to think of that. Matter of fact, it’s insignificantly illogical to be worrying about what other people think about you!

“You’ll worry less about what people think about you when you realize how seldom they do.” — David Foster Wallace

It is a sad but simple truth that the average person filters their world through their ego, meaning that they think of most things relating to “me” or “my.” This means that unless you have done something that directly affects another person or their life, they are not going to spend much time thinking about you at all.

But the more interesting observation I made is how the spectators react. Rather than watching the actual performers, most people are looking around to see how other people are reacting. If people were laughing, they would start laughing too. But if people weren’t paying attention, they would also pay no mind. 

Even when provided the blatantly obvious opportunity to judge someone, people are still thinking about how others may perceive them.

Now, isn’t it liberating once you understand that this is how people’s mind works? That they don’t actually (really) give a F@$% about so and so? (Pardon the expletive)

The world is already full of people who obey the status quo. But the people who learned how to say “I don’t give a F@$%”, or to put it mildly, “I don’t care (about what others say)” are the ones that change the world.

Be the latter.

15 thoughts on “Saying “I Don’t Care” can be liberating!

  1. Ah! I enjoyed reading this article. Although I’m not as liberated for I still much to my own disappointed are about how people might perceive me but the times when I don’t, those days and times are happiest!
    I admire your work, Andrei. They pertain to relevant issues and day to day life. Makes you wonder and leaves you with a fresher perspective. 😊

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    1. Thank you. You’re so sweet and generous 😊
      Yeah, let’s not get all to caught up by other people’s impressions about us. Instead, let us be ‘true’ to ourselves because that what truly matters at the end of the day. So long us we’re not hurting anybody. Let us start a revolution to free ourselves from the bondage of people pleasing for the sake of acceptance. Rather let us start a movement to be accepted by our own selves thru our own (personal) set of morals and standards.
      Thank you. See you around ☺


  2. Here I am standing guilty to this one too. A dress, a post, an action all are done with the audience in mind. But is there an audience? Not sure, not at all sure in a world where as you rightly put in ‘ruled by the smartphone’. Yet, our minds are trained to control our actions in that direction. But when you make up your mind, that you really do not care, confidence in your actions is automatic so much so that you end up performing much better than you actually expected. May be it is time to say ‘ I DONT CARE’

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    1. I have to say that this line really encouraged me: “May be it is time to say ‘I DON’T CARE'”.
      The moment we commit a firm resolve to any pronouncements we made to our selves, I believe, is the time awesome changes and growth take their place in our life. Like many others, lots of realizations struck me every single day and pity that I only acknowledge those that I can manage to handle at a given moment. And “caring so much about my ‘face’ in front of others has always been a struggle for me to a point that it has become very limiting to my confidence and fulfillment in life. Until I realize that I don’t really care much about other peoples ‘faces’ (actions, failures, etc) and probably so are they with regards to my self.
      Thank you for sharing your thoughts Pranitha.💜

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  3. Are you familiar with this:
    “It is not the critic who counts, not the one who points out how the strong man stumbled or how the doer of deeds might have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena. Whose face is marred with sweat and dust and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again and again, who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions and spends himself in a worthy cause. Who, if he wins, knows the triumph of high achievement, and who, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory or defeat.” Teddy Roosevelt

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    1. No, just read these lines as you shared them. And it’s inspiring, I might say.
      It’s true, at the end of the day, it will be our own opinion about our own battles that counts, all the others are just mere words. It is our battle -our Life- and we must lead it our way or the way we want it to be. Although conventions were established to give balance and order it doesn’t entail the responsibility from anybody to conform to them.
      Thank you for sharing such an inspiring quote. Appreciate the visit and the comment 👍

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  4. Wow…. excellent post Andrei! I love it when writers throw evidences in my face leaving me thinking “why didn’t I notice that before???” Very very thought provoking…. I have a feeling I’ll think about this a lot today! 🙂

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  5. So true Andrei. I was just like that. All the time thinking that others are constantly judging me. And I would do everything to please them. Gradually I have understood the folly of my behaviour. Now I don’t give much importance to what others think about me. This change in my attitude has given me more peace.

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    1. It’s really nice to know that you’ve already shifted from this type of notion and attitude Radhika ☺ Inarguably this truly plays a huge factor in the way most people think, act or respond.
      Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Appreciate it ☺

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