Are you playing the losing game?


When we were young, we’d run around the house and hurt ourselves by accidentally running into a chair. So our folks would let us play the “B” game or the “blame game” and put the blame on the chair:

“Ouch. That hurt! Why did you get in my way? We were having so much fun until YOU spoiled it all. Who do you think you are? You’re bigger and stronger, and you hurt me. You’re a bully. Why don’t you pick on someone your own size?”

And with that, our folks would let us hit the chair to show it who was the boss. “Bad, bad chair!”

For some reason, scolding the chair made it all better. (Of course it’s so much easier to blame the chair than to admit fault.) And we continued playing.

Although you may think this is a kid’s game, some people continue to play the blame game as adults.

“Don’t blame me that I’m out of shape.”
“It’s not my fault that I accumulated all this debt.”
“You’ll probably never trust me again, but…”
“I know I messed up, but…”

I can hear the chorus now, “Bad, bad chair!”

At some point in our lives, when it comes to the “B” game, we all get “A’s”!

You have a choice: You can blame shortcomings on the weather, a bad horoscope, or that it’s a leap year. Or you can get serious. The truth is, when folks deflect responsibility and cast blame, it serves as nothing more than a crutch and a reason to stop trying. Worse yet, people who continually invent excuses why they can’t succeed convince themselves that failure is inevitable. This results in their ultimately losing faith in themselves and their abilities –– and making it a self-fulfilling prophecy. So be careful how you speak to others because you’re probably listening too.

Backed up by so many success stories being told and observed, successful people, on the other hand, don’t blame the world when they fail to achieve something. They accept personal responsibility, learn from their mistakes, and then do something about it. They also know that being unwilling to make the effort is a losing game. In fact, those who say, “I can’t” and “I don’t want to” trigger the same results.

It is important to note — even though you may be making an effort today, things may not be going your way. That’s because you may be paying a price for years of neglect. But that shouldn’t deter you from making the effort now. The truth is, it takes many years to become an overnight success.

The bottom line is, if you want to achieve something in life, get to work. Things don’t happen magically. YOU have to make things happen. So, be positive. Stay focused. And remain determined. If you look into the mirror and don’t like what you see … don’t blame the mirror. Successful people accept responsibility for their destiny; losers play the blame game.


© 2017

13 thoughts on “Are you playing the losing game?

    1. Yeah, basically we are the one’s responsible with our own actions or decisions, and in the long run, our respective lives. Pointing fingers is not a solution nor an option.
      Thank you for the compliment! I’m humbled as much as I’m honored 🙂

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  1. So true. It has somewhat became a cliche that ‘we are responsible of our own respective lives’ yet only few people understand and accept that. Somehow it became much emotionally, mentally and psychologically easier to put our blames on others. However in doing so, we sacrifice our opportunity to grow mature. Because I strongly believe that maturity starts with realizing our flaws and taking responsibility on all our actions. We may say that sometimes circumstances drives our actions yet in response to those circumstances we are the one’s who’s in control of the wheel regarding how we will respond and eventually act.
    Thank you for reading and the insightful comment 🙂 I love your analogy: when we point a finger to others, 3 are pointing back at us 👍 Telling us otherwise to look and dig deeper at ourselves first.


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